Have you made a quick calculation of the time you spend per day looking at the mobile screen? And of the time you dedicate to the children? Believe me, you would rather not do it for fear of realizing that you pay more attention to an electronic device than your children.
In the last week I have taken the job of observing fathers and mothers with their children in the street. At school, in the park, in a shopping mall and even when they were in the car. Yes, I have also seen parents driving and chatting with their children at the same time in the back seat. We have reached a point where we have to stop, reflect and change. Therefore, I propose: get rid of your mobile and connect to your children. You will see why it is so important that you do it.
You miss your children's childhood
It may sound exaggerated, but it is so. Do you think something very serious will happen if you stop looking at the phone for five minutes? It won't even happen if you stop doing it for an hour. However, during that time you are missing the possibility of sharing precious moments with your children that will not return.
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, emails, chats ... We could spend 24 hours there if they left us. We have a crazy hitch with the mobile. We are able to forget the child on a birthday, but leaving home without a mobile phone causes an anxiety attack.
Something's wrong. Parents We are not aware of what we are missing because we are so hooked to the mobile. You forget unforgettable moments like playing with your children, keeping a talk, sharing with them the little free time you have per day, telling them a story when you go to bed, pampering them in the morning, sitting together at the table without interference, or something as simple as looking into your eyes while talking to you. Because we have also stopped doing that.
If you feel identified or identified, get rid of why Your children's childhood is only one, it is too short, and you are missing it.
Your children feel ignored
It is possible that you complain about the addiction of your husband to the mobile, or of your teenage son, or of that person to whom you speak and not even look at you for being answering a Whataspp. What do you feel ignored? Think about how your child will feel if his reference people, the people who love him most, his parents, ignore him. They may be too small to identify that feeling and claim you, but you can see it.
Because while you're on the phone you are ignoring your children. You miss a very important interaction for your development, especially when they are small. The father and the mother are fundamental actors for the children's learning, through them they establish contact with the environment and discover essential skills for their development at all levels (motor, cognitive, psychological and emotional). In other words, are your connection to the world, and if that connection fails, there is a problem.
When children grow up it is not a lesser evil either. Although they are no longer babies, children need to feel that their parents listen to them and understand them. As they grow, we are no longer their link with the world to stand by their side and accompany them, but they still need us. We must be more outstanding children and less mobile.
Why disengage ?: more compelling reasons
I do not say that we stop using them. In fact, smartphones have changed our lives, I think that for good, but like everything else, when it's done reasonable and non-obsessive use. In addition to the reasons we have mentioned before, we will see other compelling reasons to stop mobile addiction.
In recent years a worrying has been detected rise of injuries in children, and many doctors believe that this increase is directly related to the increasing use of mobile devices by parents. Mobile devices are enemies of the guardian angel, because sometimes we cannot do two things at once.
If they see it, they will: There is nothing more powerful for children than the example of parents. Therefore, if you do not want your child to be a mobile addict in a few years, get rid of it now.
They deserve your time: Time together with your children is worth gold, do not waste it looking at a screen.
Detoxify your mobile: five tips
I propose a simple exercise. Look at yourself from the outside as if you were carrying a camera on your forehead and you were recording yourself. Think about all the times you take the phone throughout the day and when you could have let it go and paid attention to your children. Surely they are more than you think.
Is not easy. Looking at the phone every five minutes is a compulsive act, but like everything else, if we make an effort it can be achieved. Pay attention to these tips if you want Disconnect from your mobile and connect to your children.
Leave your cell phone at home when you go out with your children. Start for short moments and go lengthening the time. It is an addiction, so step by step.
Do not answer calls or messages that can wait. No need to pick up the phone right away. Learn to distinguish what is truly urgent from what is not.
Silence the mobile. If you dare not leave it at home, you can start by silencing it to avoid being tempted to take it every time a notification sounds.
Set schedules. Stipulate schedules in which your children are not with you to use the mobile. For example, when they are at school or at night after bedtime.
Don't carry your cell phone. If you carry it in your pocket you will not endure the temptation to look at it every so often, so when you are at home with the children, leave your cell phone at the entrance, in the kitchen or at the night table.
