Some time ago I read an article, via Mario López de Ávila, that we encouraged parents to develop skills to behave better with our children. Although there is plenty of literature and authors to extend and deepen the subject, I will list the seven highlights that the author indicates and I will also add my own notes.
Encourage children in the effort not only to pressure them to be intelligent. The goal is for children to always have motivations, illusions and to be encouraged to insist without falling into disappointments or permanent defeats. Is better that learn that it is important to strive to be smart Because in a globalized world like the current one and how long life is, it is more important that they learn to work continuously and sustainably. And we should never stop encouraging them because, as we will see later, if you stop encouraging and rewarding the short term, the kids stop motivating themselves or get used to being rewarded every time they are challenged.
Get them to sleep and rest. Apparently it has been proven that a loss of one hour of sleep For a sixth grader, he does it as if he were a fourth grader. If in addition to that lack of accumulated sleep during childhood, adolescence is reached, the consequences can be very bad. So you have to encourage them to sleep and now that they are on vacation, it is a good time to see what are your real rest needs to know how we can do in autumn and winter to reproduce that rest that your body demands.
How to make them honest and honest. And is that it is hard for parents to accept that our son cheats us and even if he looks at us and lets go of that look! and talk to us with conviction we have to realize that sometimes he is lying to us. So we have to encourage them to make us happy with the truth because if they tell us what they think we want to hear, they will not only not content us but they will also learn to lie.
Children need rules and regulations. And is that if you set a simple rules and rules that we can all understand living together will be better and children will learn to accept them and they will also be happy that we all respect and maintain them. In addition, students of the subject go further and explain that Children with standards know how to look for entertainment, within the norms, and which are more autonomous. At opposite side are boring childrenThat, because they don't have rules and they don't know what to do, or because they have excessive rules, in the end they don't know what to do.
Discussing with children is normal and even healthy. And it is that in families there is a little tension is good, normal, reasonable and beneficial in the long term. Why It is fun and healthy to discuss, serves to know and expose the points of view and learn to negotiate so that no opinion is better than another and everyone learns to accept other visions.
Arguing in front of children is not that bad either.. The goal is for the discussion to have an end and a solution that satisfies everyone. And it is that after the insults and tensions if in the end it is seen that a conclusion is reached and that there are signs of affection between the parties, the children calm down and learn that it is possible to resolve conflicts.
Encourage and reward them daily for their effort. And, as we said at the beginning, if the children have to be constant and lively, it is best to reward them daily and maintain momentum to increase optimism and motivation, I am sure that they will also increase their self-esteem.
And here the seven tips or recommendations for parents let's raise children in a reasonable way. The truth is that there are many visions and opinions that have recently achieved that many of these ways of relating to our children were questioned. At home we try to follow these criteria, which we have arrived with reflection, understanding and because they are what we have learned from our parents. So we hope that our little one can keep the good things we teach her and she also acquires and develops these skills in case one day she decides to start a family.
